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Re: Nights and Mornings

Anna Tree — Thu, 29 Oct 2015 00:24:50 -0000

Your post was deleted in Amren before I answered it, so I will post my answer here, sorry to highjack (and such a old thread lol):

Actually when I was an islamocritic visiting Faithfreedom org, I learned a little about other religions too and if my memory doesn't fail me, I think this colored thread is about sabbath, something like that they can carry things in that closed area, if no thread it would be a sin. Funny but I prefer funny religions than death cults (although thinking again, Judaism is not funny because of male genital mutilation. MGM should be outlawed in white countries and I applaud Germany to outlaw it. The sad part is with the invasion going on, I am not sure Germans won't be circumcised in 20 years of time...)

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Re: Slate: Why Is a Former Sex Blogger “Rethinking Virginity”?

victoria ordin — Fri, 05 Sep 2014 02:28:46 -0000

Slate is awful. Really awful. I just left a long comment which you may or may not see, depending upon how closely you moderate this blog.

Slate, Jezebel, Salon: NOTHING about women or sex or gender should ever be taken seriously by those miserable shrews--awful class warriors to boot.

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Re: Slate: Why Is a Former Sex Blogger “Rethinking Virginity”?

victoria ordin — Fri, 05 Sep 2014 02:25:55 -0000

Well first of all, I'm old. 42. And I went to Yale at a time very little sex was taking place (class of 1995), at least compared to now.

I write a blog called Victorian Chick, much of which is about Yale and recovery from post-Yale depression. I had next to no sex at Yale because I was very serious about writing (criticism not papers) and also in psychoanalysis for part of my college years. I didn't date and I moved into a nice apartment across from Old Campus (technically off-campus but barely), so my college experience is I realize atypical. But there was no Sex Week then. It was a different time. People hooked up, but nothing like today.

I am sorry people have been so mean. I worked as an AIDS counselor when people all died (1991-2). I was very much a part of that community. I have no idea what the conflict is here, re gay virginity, as the men I counseled (support groups for those from HIV to end of their opportunistic infections) were way past thinking about virginity. I had no idea there were virginity wars and it's never occurred to me that gay college students philosophized about virginity.

I don't know anything about people your age, frankly, except what kids of friends go through getting into schools or graduate /professional schools. I know college kids sort of thirdhand (the college-aged kids of FB friends, some of whom are also real-life friends).

But Harvard kids (and I assume Yale as well) seem to speak an entirely different language than when I was there. Perhaps you speak for a very particular group and the people who row crew and sing a cappella are just like they used to be, except that they take Adderall (sp) and have more sex.

You strike me as thoughtful and bright, and I admire your courage. But we didn't even have email when I was at Yale. I have nothing in common with your generation of Ivy women. I relate to Ivy women 20 years older more than I do 20 years younger. And I am as pro-gay or gay-friendly as any straight woman, but in my social circle my gay friends are all cabaret and theater people in NYC, where I live three months a year. I cannot imagine any of these performers devoting 15 seconds to an inclusive definition of virginity which allowed them to feel part of the larger community or whatever it is that's at stake here--which, again, is utterly unintelligible to me.

I believe that these conferences matter to those who attend them. And I am sure there are real issues in some of these sexual politics forums, though I am a big fan of Dead White Males and Yale's more traditional English program (circa 1990-1994) was heaven next to the horror of Cultural Studies at UCSB, where I did graduate work in English.

But with all the Ivy hatred, class warfare and nuttiness about sex, I cannot say I am surprised by the firestorm your blog incited. There is just NO way regular folks in the regular world, who--money or no money--have no chance in hell of getting into any Ivy, can get their heads around the kinds of questions or public discussion of those questions currently going on in today's elite colleges.

I am sure you wrote a rigorous thesis (and I see you speak German, which is very cool) but you have to know that to someone my age, who took philosophy and English at Yale and focused on the Canon (though not in Directed Studies), the immediate reaction will be: "She seems like a lovely, bright, passionate young woman. Why did she spend her academic years at Harvard thinking about sex?"

I understand HAVING tons of sex. And I have no problem with that. I'm secular and the idea of saving yourself for marriage is frankly one of the dumbest ideas I've ever heard. You can't know how you are with someone longterm until you have a) had sex and b) co-habitated.

I think it's utterly idiotic to save yourself till marriage and my secular Jewish father would no doubt disinherit me if I proposed to marry someone I hadn't lived with for at least a year.

So I don't think casual sex is wrong. I think sex is sex and love is love and that there is absolutely no necessary, Humean connection between them. Ideally, they become related at some point in or out of marriage because that's a relationship and relationships make life better, deeper and more meaningful. But certainly, there's nothing wrong with just sex.

So please understand, I have *no* judgment about your active sex life. Boston weather sucks, anyway. One is indoors a lot and you can only study so much. I just wonder why you would choose to devote your *intellectual* (vs just physical) energy to the topic of sex. That's the only part of your story that puzzles me.

Sexual and identity politics have really infected the academy as a whole and the Ivy League in particular. I don't think your generation can fathom a time before the Internet and social media. There is an absence of interiority and privacy, and by extension an absence of reflectiveness, in today's youth, even "the best and brightest." Your generation seems to feel that it's not enough just to sleep around, but that this must be *discussed* publicly.

I am as self-revelatory on my blog and on FB as anyone I know, though it tends to be about my family, my graduate school, my depression, and my childhood years. I announce my period and how much it sucks to have cramps. My FB friends followed me through the WONDROUS (no, really) yanking out of my Fallopian tubes, which made a real difference in cramps though the doctor swore it wouldn't.

But I can't imagine blogging about my sex life--not ever. I've blogged about my celibacy: nearly 9 years after college during graduate school and beyond. And Yale was nearly celibate. And my private high school years were sexless too (I was a virgin, not by design but lack of opportunity as a jazz dancer, debater, and serious student who knew no boys).

I do realize people have different interests. But if you're not a pre-med or engineering sort, you could pursue the questions you have anywhere. As a Bulldog who doesn't like Cambridge as a place even a little tiny bit (I applied early to Yale, got in, and didn't apply anywhere else, but even if I hadn't gotten in, I was never going to apply to Harvard), I'm not a fan of the Harvard vibe.

But there are SO many amazing scholars there. I don't wonder that you wanted to have a ton of sex, nor even that you wished to chronicle it. My only question is why you wished to devote your one and only chance at a Harvard thesis to something you did not need to kill yourself to get into Harvard to pursue.

In my day, I think Harvard and Yale took something like 11% of applicants (and how the common application has altered admissions is another question not relevant here). But everyone knows it's harder to get in now than it was 25 years ago.

So there you are: you got into Harvard. Didn't you want to study with brilliant scholars of history or literature or foreign languages? If science isn't your thing, fine. I personally loathe math and science. But wasn't there a foreign culture you wanted to explore?

Slut-shaming (like fat-shaming) is such a silly issue. If one wants to be a slut (whatever that means--and a guy can sleep with three times the number a woman does and still just be a stud), then go for it. Just be discreet. There. Problem solved.

The issues at the center of the Rethinking Virginity conference seem like things the participants could take up with a therapist. Why devote the precious little time one has at a great institution like Harvard to something you can do on your own, something you don't even need to real brains to tackle. I don't say that to be mean, but physics or philosophy this isn't.

(As a side note, I sometimes wonder if the horrors of the college application system have produced a generation of emotionally stunted robots who didn't mature emotionally during high school because with a dozen APs, who has time to feel? I think that has to be part of this. What kids go through to get to an Ivy League school these days is both insane and inhumane.

The SAT is a stupid, meaningless test that helps only those from deeply disadvantaged backgrounds, and kids kill themselves to get perfect scores. And for what? At least the LSAT has, if not substance, some correlation to performance in the first year. The SAT measures one and one thing only: the ability to take the SAT.)

Finally, please realize that I am a Yale girl (1995) raised in liberal, affluent, largely Jewish West Los Angeles with extremely liberal social/sexual views. If your story provokes these thoughts in ME, what will it provoke in someone more moderate (centrist) on these matters?

I wish you all the best. I would never willingly insert myself into those waters at your age. And you're brave. But people are terrible, truly terrible, and a pretty girl at Harvard is already going to inspire envy (more than an unattractive woman would).

Look at what happened to Yale Law's Amy Chua. I corresponded with her at some length over her Triple Package. She's a really nice lady but my God, she once again thrust herself in front of a firing range. That she's great looking and skinny doesn't help matters, of course, with all the angry, bitter, financially struggling moms who resent her for, well, practically everything. (For the record, I think she's a terrific lady, professor and friend, but that she was a terrible mom and I am so grateful she wasn't mine.)

You may not bother to think through what I've taken the time to articulate in a way that makes sense to you. I'm trying to give you some perspective about what someone in her early 40s, from an Ivy, with very liberal sexual mores thinks when reading about this alien world (a Harvard home to a conference called "Rethinking Virginity.").

P.S. I attended the English Institute in 1992 back when there was actually, you know, literature and criticism at the conference. By 1992, cultural criticism had brought new life to the discipline but it was still English. I don't know what the hell it is now, but it has nothing to do with English literature.

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